"A Child is like a piece of white paper... And his/her parents are like a pen... how the child will grow up will depend on how the parents teach him... juz like how the paper will look like will depend on what is written on the paper by the pen..."
I think everyone viewing this post should have heard this quote before... XD so lemme tell u guyz a story about this... XD
Juz back home... went to input some knowledge...(Man... My english seriously sucks!!!) when i was there... at about 9.30am... i saw an incident that triggered me to post this post... XD
There were 2 children in the house, and a maid as well... the children woke up at about 9.30am... n just before that the maid went upstairs and came down... which i think is to wake the children up... XD it took the children about 15 minutes to come downstairs... and just when they reached downstairs... the maid came out from the kitchen, carrying a bowl of Maggi Mee and two cups of drink(I think it's Milo... XD) to them... Five minutes later, the maid came out with another bowl of Maggi Mee for the other child... Wow... The Maggi Mee smelled really nice!!! maybe it's because i hadn't have my breakfast... XD And what's more?? besides breakfast served in front of them(without needing them to prepare themselves) just when they woke up, one of them even sat in front of the tv... took out his playstation... and played while eating the bowl of noodles!!! and he took about an hour to finish the bowl of noodles... Wow!! talk about enjoying life... T_T""
By now... you might ask... "Are you posting this just because you're jealous of them for having such a good familly which allows them to do nothing??" well... Seriously... i'm NOT jealous of them... it just occured to me that... Some of the children nowadays can grow up doing basically nothing... and i mean nothing besides doing their homework, study well and besides that... just enjoying life... Just wondering... What will they become when they grow up... will they be just smart in books but not in life?? how will they deal with problems?? to me... they seem so vulnerable... that even the slightest problem could just defeat them until they can't stand up again... unless... they're helped by the others... and even with that... some of them might not even be able to stand up... is that worthy for me to be jealous of?? obviously... NO...
Just when i saw the incident... A sentence came flowing in my mind immediately: Thanks Mom... I couldn't have posted this and had so much thinking going on without you...
Just let me tell you briefly how i grew up... the bad parts first... i had been slapped by my mom while she's pulling my hair... now you don't really see that many mothers doing that do you?? XD i was driven to a highway and left there for quite a few minutes... sitting down... shivering... not knowing what to do... and i was only in standard two during the time... If my memory does not creating an illusion in my mind... XD and i was scolded and yelled and beaten and slapped and canned for almost everyday last time... now i have to admit.. confess as well... i was very very very very Very VEry VERy VERY lazy when i was in primary school... i can just leave every single homework of mine undone... that's why i got all those punishments... XD until i was in standard 6... when i grew up a little(I think)... i started doing my homework... and i got less punishments(of course) then...
The good part now... (Although some of you might think it's not that good... XD) My parents dragged me everywhere they go... No matter i like it or not... no matter how dirty it is... no matter how embarrassing i felt it was... they made me do everything they did... those they feel that's needed for me to grow up into what am i now... although i have to admit... i seriously HATED those days... but now... thinking about it back then... it actually helped me A LOT in my life... 1st thing... going to the market...Just let me ask first... how many of you knows how to choose a vegetable/fruits... ladies fingers... how do you choose the young ones... tomatoes... how do you choose the fresh ones... watermelons... how do you choose the nice ones... when do you buy the best watermelons... durians... how do you choose the best ones... not to mention some normal leavy vegetables... all of these i learnt in the market... and guess why... it's simply because my mom was helping my grandfather in selling vegetables in the market when she was a small kid... and she feels that it's really important to know this... (Thanks mom.. XD) then... talk about cooking... how many of you guyz is able to cook a complete meal( and i don't mean eating maggi mee for lunch or dinner)XD... simple ones... and plan which dishes to cook... in order to have complete nutrients in a meal... let me tell you... just the planning part can already kill your brains man... i couldn't do it before this... but now... i'm so proud to say that... i can prepare and cook a dinner whenever my mom doesn't feel ike doing it!!! just because my mom insisted all of us in the house helping her in the kitchen... or at least observing her cooking whenever she's in the kitchen... YEAH!!! XD then... talk about planting vegetables... my dad had a piece of empty land just behind his house when he used to live in johor... and therefore... he plants vegetables there... takes care of them... and bla bla bla... you know... do whatever a garderner will do... XD now... he leaves a small piece of land empty behind my house... and planted some vegetables there... and had me planted some vegetables... although i was so lazy to take care of them... and left it to my maid... XD but trust me... i do know how to do them... just that i'm lazy... XD
i could write a 5000 words post if i keep on doing this... just to summarize... i'm not going to brag about myself in this post... XD you'll be able to know more about me when this blog continues... if i have the willpower to continue it... XD well i grew up in a life which is full of suffer... if you view it in a way that you're doing the things you hate... but full of experiences and knowledge if you view it in another way... XD
Summary: Finally...I'm getting to the point after all those crap i typed just now... Hope you guys are not asleeped by now... XD when i saw the children... the first sentence that came out of my mouth was:现在的孩子真的很好命... but do they get as much knowledge that are needed in life?? that you can't survive battling challenges in life without them?? i don't think so... so parents... or even future parents who are reading this... do you want to raise a child that needs someone to look after even after you are unable to look after them?? well... i don't... XD teens... even if you parents did not ask you to do stuffs that they do... just because they care for you so much until they don't want to see you getting hurt... just volunteer yourself to do it... or at least help in it... just to train yourself well... so that you'll be a tough person to face life... no matter you're a guy or a girl... well... best wishes and good luck in life... XD let's make this life a beautiful and meaningful one... XD
PS: i'm so sorry for my crappy english... and my super long winded boring "so called story"... that's one of my problems... ppl try to write long posts... but i can't seem to write short ones... anyway... hope you'd enjoy it... XD and also sorry if i made you buy eye-mo... XD comments appreciated... XD hope you guyz got what i wanted to say in this post.... XD
From: Shawn
Zuo Hao
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I think that humans are very adaptable. Different styles of bring up will only shape personalities and life perspectives: in short, its 'character building'.
My heart goes out to your 'painful' childhood. My view is that, children should be taught but not by such traumatic experiences. I think there are better methods of getting the message through.
Most people would reminisce their childhood with a smile on their face and I personally think that that is absolutely invaluable.
As to whether the kids will be resilient when they grow up? Its more of the emotional lessons that matter. Babies that are caressed grow up to be happier and more secured individuals. Of course, having those knowledge of yours is very commendable, but I would prefer a different kind of delivery style any day.
I admire that you are insightful and believe that you are turning into a splendid individual. keep up the good work!
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